Often, I lose sight of my own capabilities and what I can achieve if I just remain strong and keep working hard. True, it’s easier than said but I’ve seen many – women and men – who strive to achieve great things and they succeed.
This is a reminder to me – hopefully, to you too.
At the end of 2016, I realized that friendships can end at any time and sometimes, with little explanation as to why. No matter how hard I try to make it work but if the other side gives up on it, then there’s nothing worth saving.
Friend: I need some space
I hate the word ‘space’. ugh.
I hate the sentence ‘give me some space’… it leaves me wondering because I don’t know how long and when should I try to lessen the gap of the ‘space’. I’ve always thought ‘talking things out’ is one of the best way to solve a conflict but alas, people can change? Losing a friend is not something that I want to experience often.
I love my little set of friends. I appreciate them and who they are – inside and out. So, 2016 wasn’t so bad after all…
How about you? I hope you and your friends cherish each other even more in 2017. I hope your friendships bloom like flowers.
So, life fell apart,
Love let you down,
People walked away,
You found yourself broken,
Shattered into pieces.
you don’t need to wait for someone to glue you back together,
you are capable of picking up the pieces,
you have the strength in you all this time,
to lift all the heavy burden on your shoulders,
you realize that you don’t need validation from anyone,
Finally, you learn to embrace who you are.
“Promises are made to be broken”
Just because you cannot keep your own promises, you make that excuse.
Promises are not made to be broken. Promises are made for the other person to know how committed you are in doing something. Promises are made for YOU to measure your own commitment to someone else or even to yourself (if you make a promise to yourself). Promises are not simple words. They are words that should be full of meaning. The person you made that promise to expect you to honor it. They put their trust in you.
I’ve come across a few human beings who love to make promises to me. I know better now. I don’t take their promises seriously anymore.
To me, honoring a promise is a reflection of who you are.
Be careful of the words you utter.
Be careful of the actions you show.
Be careful of the decisions you make.
You never know when your words, actions or decisions might hurt someone.
Try to be truthful and mindful.
Sometimes, maybe it’s best to sugarcoat a few things (depends on the situation. Please don’t do it often).
What irks me right now are those people who thinks they’re being honest / real but their opinions are downright rude. RUDE. There’s a thin line between being honest a.k.a ‘real’ and being rude. Don’t share your opinion and be rude just because you think you’re being extremely honest.
Like I said, be careful of the words you utter.
Over the years, I found out that it’s best to step aside from any arguments I’m in because I’d end up saying something that I’d regret.
It’s not the way to live.
As angry as I am at them, I will try to figure out a way to release the anger somewhere else.
AND I FOUND A WAY!
Thus, each time, I’m in an argument (with family/friends), I would imagine that I’m slamming doors on their faces and boom, anger gone!
How about you?
I’ve never known how to be happy with just me.
- I’ve always thought that I need someone, a man, to make me feel happy. I believe that being in a relationship will make me feel a million times happier because there’s someone to love me back and accept my flaws. No, I don’t jump into relationships to find that happiness. I’m the kind of girl to pour my heart and soul to someone. It worked for a while, we made it work but things changed. I lost the happiness I was clinging onto. I felt lost. I don’t know how to be genuinely happy for a while. It took me months and countless of sad love songs for me to realize that I’m wasting my time moping around over the lost of someone. Even though, the feelings for him still lingers at the back of my mind, I realized that I can be happy on my own.
- I always feel happy when someone compliments me. I need that kind of reassurance to make me feel that I’m doing something right. Thus, I do things in my family in hopes of them appreciating me and complimenting me. It doesn’t always work. I can do all the good things but they’ll never realize how much I needed their appreciation. It’s frustrating but hey, they’re my family and I love them. Lately, I realize that it’s not impossible to be happy without getting any compliments from them.
Now, I realize that happiness comes within me. It took a while to find it but now that I do, I will lock it in my heart. No one can take my happiness away when I’ve come so far. I won’t let them.